Before we move on from our teaching on THE PROCESS and 100% COMMITMENT…I’d like to ask you a question:
HOW DID YOU REALLY DO WITH THE FALURE ASSIGNMENT?
If you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10, were you at least 8 out of 10? If you truthfully search yourself, your answer will more than likely be NO… and that’s OK. Don’t beat yourself up. Just get out there and do it again.
After hearing all of the testimonials this last week in the studio you should be inspired to go back out there and power on! Even if you did score high it will only do you good to get out there again…and again. So, keep persevering and raise your own bar to the NEXT LEVEL!
We’ll do another assignment review this week and see how it went with you this time.
We’re plowing into the extremely important topic of…LISTENING. But first…take a good look at the following definitions:
- SOUND – a vibration that propagates as a typically audible mechanical wave of pressure and displacement.
- NOISE – a sound, esp. one that is loud or unpleasant or that causes disturbance.
- VOICE – the sound produced in a person’s larynx and uttered through the mouth, as speech or song.
- HEAR – perceive with the ear the sound made by someone.
- Perceive – become aware or realize… (sound only).
- LISTEN – give one’s attention to a sound.
- Attention – interesting or important notice of someone or something.
- DISCRIMINATIVE LISTENING – the most basic form of listening and does not involve the understanding of the meaning of words or phrases but merely the different sounds that are produced… as in early childhood.
- COMPREHENSIVE LISTENING – involves understanding the message or messages that are being communicated.
- CRITICAL LISTENING – when the goal is to evaluate or scrutinize what is being said.
- THERAPEUTIC LISTENING – putting yourself into the speaker’s shoes, sharing their thoughts. Empathy.
- SELECTIVE LISTENING – This is a more negative type of listening, it implies that the listener is somehow biased to what they are hearing. It’s a sign of failing communication… you have filtered out some of the message.
- ACTIVE LISTENING – a way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding.
- Understanding – comprehending.
- Comprehension – capability of understanding.
- RELATIONSHIP LISTENING – important factor in developing and sustaining a relationship – incorporating like and trust.
- POWER LISTENING – being present in the moment having nothing else going on in your mind/thoughts besides what’s being communicated at that present time. The incorporation of ALL of the positive and beneficial definitions listed above.
BUILD YOUR ARSENAL
As you can see, when we casually use the word LISTEN… it can be like using so many other words that have many different meanings. Similar to the word LOVE, understanding the FOUR categorical ways to use love will communicate what you’re desiring much more effectively.
Knowing and understanding the meaning of and how to use words will make you so much more effective in what you’re doing and ultimately trying to communicate. When it comes to acting and actors, words are our POWER TOOLS — the better we know how to use our tools, the better CRAFTSPEOPLE we become.
POWER LISTENING requires that the listener fully concentrates, understands, responds, and then remembers what is being said to them. This means you have to WORK, FOCUS, and BURN CALORIES when you’re in a scene exchanging dialogue and information. You can’t afford to be caught up in your own thoughts of: “What’s my next line?” “What do I do next.” “How do I look?” “Wait, this scene is very cool… I need to take a selfie!”
All too often when people talk to each other, they don’t listen attentively or fully. They are far too often distracted, half listening, half thinking about something else all together. Not falling into this trap takes instruction, discipline, and training. The active application of instruction, discipline, and training is YOUR WORK! And, that’s precisely what we are and will continue to do over the next several weeks… LISTENING WORK!
Your Active Listener,
THE ACTORS FREEWAY – [Your free weekly exercise]
Actively pay attention to people in your world who are listening — or not listening.
Try and catch yourself at different times, listening and not listening to others.
Envision a fully spoken thought as a 12 inch ruler. When the speaker speaks a full thought, that will equate to a full measure (12 inches). Now, watch to see how much of the 12 inches the listener actually listens to. Measure that. You’ll often notice that the speaker will get out about 3 inches of dialogue when the listener engages thought and stops fully listening. At what point does the listener activate themselves and cut off listening?
NOTE: You can do this on both sides of the communication and/or just observe this between two (or more) other people.
THE TWO COUNT:
Now…do this again with YOU AS THE LISTENER. Only, this time, when the speaker stops talking and it’s your turn to talk…wait 1 to 2 full beats before responding (we call this the two count). This will force you to actively and fully listen to complete concepts and process what your listening to.
Make notes about how your experiences go. Positive and Negative.
WARNING! Because a majority of the population on planet earth has terrible communication skills, application of the TWO COUNT may have you sitting around doing quite a bit of listening. When given the chance, some people just won’t stop talking.